Life is beautiful, just as it is!

Life is beautiful, just as it is. It is our conditioned values, subconscious beliefs of good and bad, and our expectations of how things should be, that cover the real beauty of life under all these layers. If we can peel off these layers one by one, we can slowly start to uncover life for its beautiful reality.

I’ve heard the term “life is suffering” since a very young age but I only realised what it really meant, last year. We are not even aware that we are suffering in life as we’ve normalised the pain of day to day life, or living a life of fear. How can we know what’s missing or how peaceful, free, and joyful we could be, if we’ve not fully experienced It? If we’ve not been able to feel unconditional love in our hearts? We are so far removed from living life the way we are meant to by design of nature, being present, where peace and joy is ever present!

When we are born in to this life, we innately know to be present and love unconditionally, we are in tune with our bodies, our energies, and we are conscious. If you think of your mind as a brand new computer, with no preinstalled programs at the time of your birth, it is later as we grow that we start installing different programs in to our brains through the information we gather from our immediate environment. Usually most of these programs are installed in us up to the age of 7years when our brain is mostly functioning at a theta wave state.

When we are in the theta wave state, this is a hypnotic state where we are in between the stage of sleep and awake. We are more suggestible at this state and since we haven’t fully developed our conscious mind yet, everything we consume through our mind automatically becomes a part of our subconscious mind. Hence as adults we have these installed programming in our subconscious mind that’s running our lives right now.

We learn conditional love when we are told no as kids or being punished, because we realise that certain behaviours bring us love and certain behaviours bring us pain. We start learning that we have to do certain things sometimes even in a certain way, in order to receive love from our caregivers. These learnt beliefs are now a part of our subconscious mind.

This is why sometimes, no matter how much we want something and consciously believe that we are deserving of it, and we even put in real hard work for it, if our subconscious belief is contradictory to it, we will be struggling to attain whatever it is that we want. The harder we work for something simply means that our belief towards it is most likely a limiting belief. If we believe something is hard to attain, it is true for us. May it be money, relationship, or having amazing health. Similarly if our default belief is something that’s normalised to be a part of our life, this would be the case. Simply assess for yourself, what in your life right now are things that you have coming easily to you, and what are the things you constantly struggle to receive?

Once you notice for yourself where you struggle, you can be aware of your thoughts surrounding it, how you speak about this part of your life to yourself and others. Do you feel insecure or fearful or negatively when you think of it? If so, step 1 is to acknowledge the fear/insecurity you feel. Allow these thoughts to come up and observe them with no judgement. You don’t need to try to fix it, just let it come out and be seen, feel it in your body, and hold a loving space for it.

Remember, the feeling of fear once you’re aware of it, even if it may seem stressful or hard to deal with in the moment, really is a blessing in disguise as it shows you where you have resistance within you.

Now that you have finally acknowledged it, step 2 is to create a new belief around it which is steered by love and not fear. So when you catch yourself speaking negatively, allow yourself to change your wording from a complaint to either saying it exactly as it is with no judgement or narrative around it, or creating a more positive narrative around it.

For example instead of saying “I have really bad luck” or “I’m always broke”, it could simply be along the lines of “The event did not go as I planned but it happened the way it should” or “I’m grateful to be so lucky in every situation“ and “I’m grateful for the role money plays in my life, and how much it’s blessed me with!”.

When you say “The event did not go as I planned but it happened the way it should”, you are accepting the outcome of the situation exactly as it is. You are not trying to fix, resist it, or get carried away with a narrative your ego would try to create around it. You are at peace knowing that whatever happened, happened, and it was perfect in the moment because that's exactly what should've happened. Why? Because that is what happened. It is only the expectation of the outcome that made it bad, but for all you know this could be a blessing down the line! Or better yet, you are who you are and where you are right now is due to each situation we've been through, regardless if we perceived them to be good or bad.

When you say “I’m grateful to be so lucky in every situation“, you are letting go of the negative belief you had around it and creating a new space where you have a positive outlook on it. This may seem strange at first, but the more you keep telling yourself and others the new belief, before you know it, your mind would’ve already accepted it!

I urge you to do your own assessment of what things you struggle with and what comes easily to you. Be aware of your thoughts and speech around the struggles as that’s what drives your actions. The moment you shift your thoughts and words around, your body would automatically be taking different actions! The more you are aware of your thoughts and patterns, the more conscious you are. So here’s to present, conscious living! 🤗